Sunday, May 4, 2008
Life has changed for the better...
It's been weeks since I last posted on April... Somehow my life has changed for the better... All thanks to my friend, Kelvin... I've known him for about 20 years and for the past ten years, he has been devoting his time on 'Tao' (道）... On and off he'll come back to SG and that's when we'll meet up and catch up with each other. He has previously mentioned to me about 'Tao', and though I did believe in it, it didn't come to my mind that I'll spend my time in this aspect. Just weeks ago, he came back to SG again and during that point of time, I was troubled and feeling depressed over some personal matters and there's where he talked to me and advised me on alot of things. Somehow, I felt that what he said is really true and I decided to 'take up' 'Tao'.
I really feel that life has been much better and I'm now a much more happier person... Nothing in this world is destined, for a person is the one controlling your life and you're the owner to it.
I'll be creating a blog and hope I can post meaningful things which I've read in books or I've learned during my lessons.
It's not about Buddhism, Christianity, Confuscianism, Taoism or Muslim... For all five great religious are coming together as one...
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Hi,
You still have a friend who willing to listen to you... I have 2 friends of more than 20 years too but because of their encounters in the working society, both have changed! They are no longer "pure" and have no patience and will "play office politics" too! I know is unavoidable but they are of certain degree not the same (all things and ppl change but even to me, they are using the same type of "feeling and attitude" as they treat others even I have told them my inner thoughts and feelings truly.)...
I am having depression but both of them "not willing" to listen to me or having "excuses" or "not interested" even when we talked (only about 2 times for many mths.) I told them about my "condition" and I just need them to listen just like in the past when we will just talk and complain whatever angry or sad things we encounter...now they are quite "heartless" to all these things even they also encounter these but their attitude is different from the past. They will "shot back", quarrel, argue, "take revenge",etc, which they won't be doing such things in the past... Whenever I think about all these, I feel very pain inside because they are my best friends for so many yrs but now, they are totally a "changed" person...they no longer trust ppl (and I am also losing almost all my trust in ppl, incl them!!)
maybe is due to their experiences,etc but why are they doing that even to their siblings and me!?? I am totally dishearten and start to keep everything to myself...
When I read this post of yours, I don't know if our encounters and conditions are similar but how exactly did you "become" a happier person? How did your friend "changed" you for "better"?
Those comforting or dao4 li3 that many of us can say really irritate me a lot now because many people just say without trying to understand why and how we feel but just say and say (no empathy)and when they encounter, those words that they said they forget!
I am very angry because things that they can do or words that they can say, I can't!!! That makes me real angry because they are like in the olds time when the "commoners" can't light the lantern but the "higher" can!! I just can't take this anymore!!
Jenny
Hi Jenny,
I really wish I'll have the chance to talk to you, is there any way that we can contact in each other? You can email me at mesmotic@yahoo.com.sg, from there, perhaps you can really tell me about your problems and I really hope I can be of help, at least a pair of listening ears which you might need...
My friend didn't really change me to a better person... It's the truth in life which I recently started to seek/learn and it makes me come to a realization that I was all along ignorant to certain issues. I learn to take things easily now and I view things differently too... We all have this 'pain' in us because of attachment, we just can't let go of certain things in our heart and that's why we're suffering.
I don't know what is causing you to suffer right now, is it because of your friends who disappointed you and no longer are the same as they treated you 20 years ago? The point I want to highlight is that people around us change constantly, every hr, every min, and even secs, but the most impt thing is that dun ever let these changes affect you in any way, in fact, you should take it with an open mind and see how people change and remind yourself not to land in their steps. We've to be mindful and not let others influence us, especially those negatives ones.
I can feel your anger but please, you must learn to control it. Remember, never let anger control you, you should be the one controlling your anger. Try some breathing techniques, it might help you to calm down. Whenever you feel angry (no matter what it is), close your eyes and take a deep breath in and then breath out slowly. Repeat it a number of times and it'll calm you down. When you calm down, you'll see things better.
Jenny, I really hope you'll get in touch with me soon and we'll talk from there, ok?
And Jenny, I used to have depression too and I've walked out of it, and I'm sure you can too, really... YOu can do it, trust me.
Do visit the following website when you've the time, (it's the blog of my friend whom I know for 20 years, probably from there you'll know why I've such changes in me).
http://kelvinlua.spaces.live.com/
I've just started another blog yesterday, do visit it when you've the time.
http://www.purityatheart.blogspot.com
Hi Kat
I noticed you have not posted for quite two weeks. I came by your blog and saw your posting today. I am happy for you in the sense that you have come to terms with things/happenings in your life and have been able to move on so positively...jia you! Cheers! Life is always beautiful...depending on how you want it to be....God Bless!
Jen
Hi Jen,
You're right... life is always so beautiful, just that individuals have a different stand... If you want it to be happy, it will be so. :-)
Dear Kat,
Congratulations and glad to hear that you have found the
Truth, the path and the way.
Nothing is permanent in this world, so there's actually not much to be angry or depressed.
Now i'm sure you are aware that cultivation is impt in our daily lives. Jia You.
Fellow sister
Hi 'Fellow sister',
Thanks for your encouragement... I fully agree with you that cultivation is impt in our daily life, and we should practice what we've read/learnt in our daily life...
Let's us practice and work towards the road of enlightenment. :-)
Hi Kat,
I forgot to tell you that I have emailed you
Jenny
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