Thursday, May 15, 2008
Resignation
Heard from my supervisor that one of my colleague is tendering her resignation today. I was shocked to hear that and what 'shocked' me even further was that she actually told my big boss that she's quitting because she can no longer work under my big boss. She literally threw this reason in front of my big boss...
From my point of view, I just feel that she might be doing herself a great disfavor. My big boss only joined the company in Mar this year and it would be unfair to say she can no longer work with my big boss. Even if this is so, it might not be right for her to say that my big boss is the reason for he resignation. First of all, my big boss might not feel good (especially when she joined only less than 2 months), secondly, she's making herself having one more enemy than a friend. Singapore is such a small world, what if they end up in the same company again in future, ?? You'll never know...
Sometimes, we have to reflect on ourselves before we put the blame on others. People in today's society is so used to shifting blame on others and they've not reflected whether they've done any better.
There is this saying:
What we encounter is due to our own actions, we can blame neither heaven nor other people.
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Hi,
Bumped into your blog and read that you are into "dao".
Just to say something: I used to comment on ppl, just like you...
Do you know why your colleague can no longer work your big boss? Could it be there have some conflicts among them which you don't know? Do you know them well, especially your big boss (only 2 mths), and maybe your colleague has his/her reasons for saying that. Maybe because of his/her past experiences, character, upbringing,etc.
I not saying your colleague is right just that maybe you should jump into your big boss defence and only think she might not feel good, how about your colleague? I think she/he might not feel good too? The "right" way is to be objective but how many of us can be totally objective? Maybe you can comment on the resignation but not on the "person"?
I don't agree to his/her doing but maybe is due to her character, her past experiences, maybe she is too angry? I think whatever others do, we may don't think is right but I am learning not to comment on other's doing/decision because we are not that person and won't know why and what result in that.
Do you agree that we like to "think and feel too much for others doing and think we know them or we simply just like to comment..."? (including myself)
"What we encounter is due to our own actions, we can blame neither heaven nor other people." I agree to the first part but only half to the second part. I agree tha we can't blame heaven or other people but we can't deny the fact that our actions maybe due to others.
A person who become bankrupt because of being a guarantor for friend. Is it "reasonable" that that person blame his/her friend? Or if you are that person, how would you react? Some may feel very angry, some may feel is own stupidness, some may want revenge, some may just feel down, some may become enemy, some may still can forgive and be friends....you see, there are too many different reactions. Different people who read that person reaction can have different comment too...
I am not saying you are wrong.Hope you don't feel offended.Just to share what I reflect throughout these years and I have learnt and still trying to remind myself. (Even as I am typing this, I reflect on whether I am "subjective" to comment on your post.)
Wen
Hi,
should be "I not saying your colleague is right just that maybe you should *not* jump into your big boss defence..."
Wen
I don't think you get her drift. It's not about who's right and wrong. It is about the girl who is resigning told the reason to her big boss that her reason is "I can't work under you" and the boss is only on her second month here. Even if the reason is valid which is her choice to resign, it is NASTY to say "I can't work under you", that is why I am resigning." Does this sounds proper?
I agree to the statement "What we encounter is due to our own actions, we can blame neither heaven nor other people." This is a deep wisdom statement!
Everything starts from us!
Hi Anonymous,
Maybe you have read my comment in different view too. To quote my previous comment:
"I don't agree to his/her doing but maybe is due to her character, her past experiences, maybe she is too angry? I think whatever others do, we may don't think is right but I am learning not to comment on other's doing/decision because we are not that person and won't know why and what result in that. "
"I am not saying you(Kat) are wrong.Hope you don't feel offended.Just to share what I reflect throughout these years and I have learnt and still trying to remind myself. (Even as I am typing this, I reflect on whether I am "subjective" to comment on your post.)"
Wen
""What we encounter is due to our own actions, we can blame neither heaven nor other people." I agree to the first part but only half to the second part. I agree tha we can't blame heaven or other people but we can't deny the fact that our actions maybe due to others."
Further to add: I agree with you that this is a deep wisdom statement but if think further, most of the time we use that on others, esp when someone is pointing finger at us but we seldom use that on ourselves.
Wen
That's a very interesting and inspiring topic!
Wen
Hi Wen,
Sorry Wen, I guess my command of English is not good enough and that's the reason you feel I'm jumping into conclusion. Actually I'm trying to bring across the point that by using that reason to put forward your resignation really hurts the other party even if it's the truth. I have no intention of siding my boss nor do I hate this colleague of mine cuz like what you've said, I don't know them very well. In Dao, anger and jealousy are one are one of those we shouldn't throw ourselves in, so dun worry, I won't feel offensive at all. No worries ok...
Well, everyday is a learning experience for us... I guess we learn something new today, you see, when I post this, you and 'Anonymous' have different reactions towards my post, but I know you and 'Anonymous' meant no harm towards each other. We're all individuals and I can't expect everyone to have the same thoughts as mine. This is what is happening in our society. We're often being mistaken or misunderstood the other unknowingly, and there's when conflicts, frustration, hate between one another arises.
Well, I should be more mindful and hopefully I can put across the right message through proper English in my next post so as not to get mistaken.
But thanks so much for sharing... Good day to you and good nite.
Hi Anonymous @ 10.58pm,
Thanks for clarifying... As for that statement, it really sets deep in my mind when I read it in a book, 'One Hundred Anecdotes & Parables'.
I would like to share further in relation to this statement as stated in the book... {All Sentient beings are the successors to their own past deeds. We all act out parts in a play that we ourselves have written. Only we can determine whether our particular play is to be a tragedy or a comedy. Whether the taste of our life is sweet, sour and bitter and hot is all a consequence of our own intention. Thus it is said. 'whatever we encounter is due to our own actions, we can blame neither Heaven nor other people}.
Oops, hope you're not bored, just wanna share... Good day to you & good nite.
Hi,
Is alright. Your English is not a problem at all. Just that we read the comment differently. I am not perfect too.
Good night too.
Wen
Kat,
I think most of the people will always put the blame on others, rather than ponting finger at themselves when something when wrong.
In their heart, they was always right.... :(
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